Back in the UPSR
Updated: Nov 18, 2018
Tracking. Are you tracking your client?
No, this doesn't mean giving someone a number or following their whereabouts.
Rather, in the world of counseling psychology, tracking entails listening to your client so intently that you're understanding the details of their story, along with the associated emotions - packed or unpacked, covered or uncovered.
It's about "attuning" so often Dr. Ling Lam says, discussing the foundations of therapeutic practice with his students at Santa Clara University in the counseling psychology graduate program.
On Tuesday, Dr. Lam brings up the topic of unconditional positive regard, a notion developed by the late Carl Rogers, founder of person-centered therapy.
"Unconditional positive regard.... unconditional positive regard," Dr. Lam lectures.
"Okay, let's just shorten this to UPR," he says, taking a moment to check-in with himself on how he's going to deliver his next message. (And laughing about the acronym sounding a bit too much like UPS, the shipping service.)
"How can someone apply UPR to others?" he asks the class.
...Students now thinking outside of the box...
"You have to firstly apply it to yourself," one of Dr. Lam's students says aloud.
"Ah ha!" Dr. Lam responds, "You first need to deliver it to yourself."
"Unconditional positive SELF regard... UPSR!"
In a world so founded on the notion of giving to others, at times, we can easily forget about giving to ourselves.
Today, let's take a step back and ask...
Do I have unconditional positive self regard?
Can I love myself unconditionally?
...A packaged gift!